Recently, while dining at our favorite restaurant, Sir Isaac announced that he had to use the restroom. I was about to make my way to the door to stand guard when he stopped me dead in my tracks. "No, mom," he said. "I can do it by myself. I'm a big boy." He was absolutely right. I am so use to escorting him and Lady Clara and waiting around that I hadn't realized that it's okay to let them go just a little bit.
By saying what he did, Sir Isaac was exercising his right to pursue his independence. I let him go ahead to the restroom by himself, though I must admit that I watched him from afar through the glass door. When he returned to our table, he had a huge smile on his face. "All done, mom," he informed me. I could tell that his experience in doing this on his own was a big deal. And, it was.
As solo mommies especially, we want to protect our children and do everything for them because we love them. However, we have to know when it's time to give them a bit of independence. This will be to their benefit now and in the future. Remember, we are raising leaders, thinkers, creators and owners. They have to get their start early on in order to take their place in this world later on.
So now, when Sir Isaac tells me he's going to the restroom, I say "okay," and let him go. He's a responsbile young man so I have no need to worry. And, that's a great thing!
Until I write you next... I'm just living the solo mommy life.
Love you!
Feona Sharhran Huff
http://livingthesolomommylife.blogspot.com
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