Party with Feona Sharhran Huff for a Purpose!

Solo Mommy Magazine is ONE DAY away from its 2nd Annual Holiday Party & Gift Drive on Saturday, December 15, 2012 from 8:30 pm to 12 midnight. It will take place at Junius Thompson Jr.'s Kappatal Cuts barbershop in Norfolk (right across from Norfolk State University). We are partying with the purpose of collecting gifts for single mom families living in the shelter system this Christmas. The cost of admission is $10 plus an unwrapped gift. Entertainment will be provided by contemporary gospel artist B21, teen violinist Lady Clara and praise dancer Natisha Simons Wilson. Charles Clark, an American sprinter and founder of the nonprofit What Matters will be the event's special guest. The holiday party and gift drive is honored to have sponsors that include Powerhouse Media Group, KCM Property Managment, LaGuamna Salley Clemons, Pistachio Cranberry Creations, UUA Images, Sylvester Hines and Shotstream Media SMM Publisher Feona Sharhran Huff and her children (Lady Clara and Timothy Huff) will deliver the gifts collected from the event on Christmas Day to one of the shelters in South Hampton Roads. To RSVP and show your support here http://www.facebook.com/events/300305613412644/?ref=ts&fref=ts. For more information, please contact us at (757) 202-3264. Email us at powerhouse4ever@gmail.com (SUBJECT LINE: Holiday Party & Gift Drive). If you are not able to attend but would like to make a donation of any size, please send your monetary contribution via Paypal to powerhouse4ever@gmail.com. We appreciate your concern for this cause and can't wait to party with you! See you on Saturday where you'll also be able to give in-person birthday blessings to Feona who turned 38th years young on 12.11.12. In service to single moms, Feona Sharhran Huff Founder & Publisher Solo Mommy Magazine www.livingthesolomommylife.com

I'm Celebrating My Smart Son Sir Isaac

Prior to the start of this school semester, I had Sir Isaac to list his goals for the academic year. One was to get on the honor roll. This past grading period, my son made it happen. He continues to soar in his academics, too. Just this afternoon, he brought home his manila folder (it comes home every Thursday and includes graded homework and classwork assignments and tests). He earned all A's. I exclaimed, "I'm so happy for you baby." He replied, "I'm happy for myself." I love it! And, I love that Sir Isaac loves school and learning. I also love the fact that he understands the concept that when you do your work and study hard, you will reap the rewards. He's looking forward to earning honor roll status for the next semester. Me, too! Go son! Please celebrate the milestones that your children make in school. If they go from a D to a C... celebrate it. If they go from an N (needs improvement) to an S (satisfactory)... celebrate it. Any improvements that they make... celebrate them. It will make a difference in how they approach their learning and studying. Until I write you next, I'm just living the solo mommy life. Love you, Feona Sharhran Huff. P.S. Be sure to leave a comment on the blog posts. Stay connected with me on Facebook. Request to join the "Living the Solo Mommy Life" group. Follow me on Twitter @ solomommy.

Saturday + Math Support = Academically Strong Children

Today, I'm not heading to the YMCA to work out nor am I attending any events. This Saturday is strictly set aside for math support for Lady Clara and Sir Isaac. So, we're assembled at the dining room table so that my sixth grade daughter and 4th grade son can practice problems on their respective level. They both have benchmark tests coming up in two weeks so I not only want them to be prepared for that but to also participate in overviews so that they stay on point. I took it "old school" with Sir Isaac and made up multiplication and division problems on loose leaf paper. Lady Clara has her school math book so I assigned her problems from it. After I check their work and corrections are made (if necessary), I'm going to let them do additional math problems at www.ixl.com. This is a fun, engaging and interactive math website with problems that range from Pre-K to geometry. The monthly fee for this service is $9.95 or $79 for the year. Sir Isaac is blessed to have this resource available for free through his school. I would pay for it if it wasn't, though, because what he is gaining by doing the exercises is well forth the cost. Math is his favorite subject so I definitely want to support him and his sister in excelling. Lady Clara and Sir Isaac have both shown an eagerness to do the math problems given. That's what I like to see! And, while some of the work has challenged them, but they are pressing through it. I encourage you to take time this weekend(as well as daily) to support your children in practicing for their school subjects. The time spent will be so beneficial as they do their classwork and homework as well as take school and state exams. FYI: In this photo posted, Sir Isaac got 17 multiplication problems right out of 18. He wanted 100 percent correct. I am still very proud of him and completely understand his academic desire. Until I write you next, I'm just living the solo mommy life. Love you, Feona Sharhran Huff. P.S. Be sure to leave a comment on the blog posts. Stay connected with me on Facebook. Request to join the "Living the Solo Mommy Life" group. Follow me on Twitter @ solomommy.

And the winner is... CLARA HUFF!

This past Friday evening, my darling daughter received the prestigious "Move Maker 2012" award from Teens With a Purpose at the youth organization's 15th Gala Awards program held at The Westin Hotel in Virginia Beach, VA. Teens from the Hampton Roads area could either nominate themselves or someone could submit an application on their behalf indicating how they have persevered and risen about the odds over the course of the year and in the process grown and evolved in one of six areas. Celebrated New York journalist Al Roker of NBC's Today Show was on hand to deliver the keynote speech and bask in delight with my aspiring actress as well as the other teen member of TWP who was honored. Clara walked away from the gala awards program with a gorgeous (and heavy!) award, an even higher self-esteem, connections (including a teen who started an organization to collect blankets for the homeless) and another worthy program to join. I want to thank everyone who helped to make the even possible for my AWARD-WINING daughter including my sorority sister LaJuan Hines-Rome (who encouraged me to submit Clara for the award), Genevieve Cromwell (who designed Clara's Asian-inspired dress), Tammy from Smarstyle Salon inside of Walmart on Battlefield Blvd in Chesapeake, VA (who worked Clara's 'do), Hines Transportation (who provided car service to and from the event) and of course Deirdre Love (founder of TWP). More photos will follow in the days to come of Clara with Al Roker, 2012 Olympiad Gold Medalist Francena McCorory and her dear mommy (ME!). Congrats Clara! I love you! There is NO limit to what you can accomplish if you set your mind to doing it and put GOD first.

Publisher of Solo Mommy Magazine Set to Empower Parents at NSU Family Enrichment Conference

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE Contact: Feona Sharhran Huff Powerhouse Media Group Powerhouse4ever@gmail.com (757) 202-3264 Magazine Publisher Returns to College Alma Mater to Empower Single Parents Feona Sharhran Huff Will Offer Savvy Strategies, Solutions and Hope at the Norfolk State University WoMEN’s Economic Development Center’s Annual Family Enrichment Conference

(Tuesday, November 13, 2012) – When Feona Sharhran Huff was a journalism student at Norfolk State University, it was very clear to her department heads, professors, the campus’s newspaper editorial team and fellow Spartans that she not only has a mighty gift of empowering people through her locally and nationally published articles but by speaking from the heart at various university events and around the Hampton Roads area. Many of the people she personally touched through her encouraging words were single parents. After graduating cum laude with a B.A. in journalism in June 1997, Feona would go on to continue her work and passion for inspiring others, particularly moms raising their children alone, by conducting workshops and publishing Solo Mommy Magazine (www.livingthesolomommylife.com). And, this Saturday, November 17, 2012, she will return to her collegiate home to bring sound advice, savvy solutions, help and hope to fellow single parents at the NSU WoMEN’s Economic Development Center’s Annual Family Enrichment Conference. She will sit on a panel specifically speaking to the needs of single parents. This conference’s theme this year is "The Family Reunion: Reconnecting Vision, Values and Victory". It will take place from 8:30 am to 1 pm inside of G. W. C Brown Memorial Hall. “It is a real honor and a blessing to be able to pour positive messages into my parenting group,” says Feona, who is the single mom of talented tweens Clara Huff and Timothy Isaac Huff. ”When I was asked to be a part of the single parent panel and overall conference, my heart said YES then my mouth followed with a confirmation. This is what my life’s calling and passion is all about: Giving, serving, leading, restoring and empowering.” Feona moved back to Virginia a year ago after having called New York City her home for 14 years. She has been conducting workshops ever since she unpacked her luggage. Some of her workshops include: “I’m Writing My Vision and I’m Making It Plain (goal setting/vision board), “Find YOUR Voice” (discovering passion) and “Be There” (parent involvement). Currently, Feona serves as Media Director of the natural hair care documentary “Ms. Nappy Comb: Her Hair Her Journey”. She is the communications and marketing liason for She’Matters G.I.R.L.S. LLC and an advisory board member of the national women’s business organization Real Sister’s Rising. Additionally, she is proud member of the Hampton Roads Black Media Professionals and the spokesman for a single mom book project slated for 2013 release. Feona encourages all parents to come out and not only hear her presentation but enjoy the other festivities that the day will offer. For more information and to interview Feona, please contact her at powerhouse4ever@gmail.com or (757) 202-3264. To get a full listing of Saturday’s happenings, visit http://www.nsu.edu/womenscenter and/or call (757) 823-2650.

Family Empowerment Event... Here I Come!

God knows EXACTLY what He's doing. The family event that I scheduled my daughter Clara Huff to volunteer at as a part of She'Matters G.I.R.L.S. LLC is the very event I've LITERALLY just been asked to attend as a speaker/workshop facilitator with a focus on empowering single moms. My oh my! He will make the path plain to your desires when you live for Him, do His will and put in the work. I will fill you in on details later. What I will say for now, though, is that if you are available Nov. 17th from 9 am to 1 pm, you'll want to be on the campus of my alma mater Norfolk State University. The Women's Center has a true treat for the parents of Hampton Roads. Thank you Donyata Shavon Miller-Washington for passing my name along. The phone call was a surprise and a real blessing for my ministry. Stay tuned! Until I write you next, I'm just living the solo mommy life. Love you, Feona Sharhran Huff. P.S. Stay connected with me on Facebook. Request to join the Living the Solo Mommy Group. Follow me on Twitter @ solomommy.

I'm Training Up My Children in Christ

As I arise early this beautiful Tuesday morning, I thank God for how Je is using my children in youth ministry. At our church, Lady Clara is a me member of teen group Future Leaders of Christ's Kingdom (FLOCK) and Kids in Christ Serve (KICS). Sir Isaac is a member of the latter group as well. This past Sunday, their group led worship service. The theme was "Journey with Jesus". They dressed in garbs just like the people did in Biblical times and delivered likes that told of Christ's physical walk while on Earth. I am definitely a PROUD MOM - not only because Sir Isaac commenced his lines to memory and Lady Clara was so eloquent in speech and diction but additionally because they gave God the glory in what they were doing. They understood it not for show but to show how Jesus lived, which was holy. Please get your sons and daughters involved in the church so that they can learn more about the awesome God we serve who has a special heart for His babies. Consider what Proverbs 22:6 says, "Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it". Until I write you next, I'm just living the solo mommy life. Love you, Feona Sharhran Huff. P.S. Stay connected with me on Facebook. Request to join the Living the Solo Mommy Group. Follow me on Twitter @ solomommy.

Rise & Shine Mom... I'm Hungry!

Sir Isaac: Mom, can I have somthing to eat? Me: Sure son. What do you want? Sir Isaac: Oatmeal Me: Okay So, I go to boil the water and take out his bowl, favorite spoon and Quaker Oats Maple Browm Sugar instant oatmeal. Then something told me to check the time. Guess what the clock read? 3:47 am. So to anyone who is up (and not of their own free will), I say, "Good Morning!" I am WIDE AWAKE now. Sir Isaac, on the other hand, is back sleep. My how the tables so quickly turn. Gotta love it. Okay, let me get a head start on my Wonderful Wednesday (wink). Until I write you next, I'm just living the solo mommy life. Love you, Feona Sharhran Huff. P.S. Stay connected with me on Facebook. Request to join the Living the Solo Mommy Group. Follow me on Twitter @ solomommy.

Indulging in a Saturday Night Treat with My Sweet Daughter

A few months ago, I purchased the Chocolate Fondue Fountain by Everyday Chef at my fave thrift store. However, I never used it. That is, until tonight. Lady Clara and I decided that our dessert for this evening would be chocolate-covered strawberries. We melted two large Hershey candy bars in the frying pan along with a little vegetable oil, then poured it into the fondue machine and let it filter throughout. Finally, we dipped our strawberries into the smooth-flowing chocolate -- all to our taste bud's delight. We ate one strawberry after the other... after the other! We just couldn't help ourselves. The prep time takes maybe 10 minutes. But the satisfaction of creating a tasty treat together is timeless. Okay, back to eating I go! Until the next time I write you, I'm just living the solo mommy life. Love you, Feona Sharhran Huff. P.S. Stay connected to me through this blog as well as through the Facebook group Living the Solo Mommy Life and on Twitter @ solomommy.

Yes, I'm Sleepy But My Creativity Won't Let Me Get Shut Eye!

After a very intense and activity-filled day, I am absolutely exhausted. Yet, I find myself still up on my trusty laptop "Betsy" to promote programs I'm producing, stay on the cusp of what's happening in social media and of course, blog. Each time I try to draw myself away from computer screen, I see yet another posting that reels me right back in. I need to be counting sheep right about now (oh, I really do!). I have a girl empowerment workshop that I'm attending in the morning with Lady Clara. Plus, I have a client's book to edit, a women's group lesson I have to prepare as I'm facilitating the discussion of Chapter One of the new book we're reading, paperwork to go through and lots of domestic stuff to do. The truth of the matter is that I don't want to go to bed. I am in a creative zone and I don't want to let it go (okay, I already know I'm going to pay for it later on in the day!). Good or bad, there is always a price you pay for your actions. I'm a big girl, so I will own up to the sleepiness I'm sure to experience. For now, I'm going to create until I can't create any more. Until the next time I write you, I'm just living the solo mommy life. Love you, Feona Sharhran Huff. P.S. Stay continued to me through this blog as well as the Facebook group Living the Solo Mommy Life and on Twitter @ solomommy.

I Will "BE THERE" For My Children!

How can you "be there" for your children? There are so many ways, including listening to them share what's on their mind, chaperoning on a school trip, volunteering for the PTA, etc. Being engaged in your child's life makes a huge differerence in how they perform in school, behave im public, interact with others, communicate, etc. Last night, I attended Lady Clara's Open School Night. You should have seen the pride just beaming from her pores as I visited each teacher's classroom to learn further about what goes on and how she is doing thus far. An even greater bond was formed and there was an appreciation for showing up for her. Though I had a busy day and was extremely tired, I was not going to miss an opportunity to show my support for my child. Please make it your priority to show up for your child. If you're in South Hampton Roads (VA) on September 29, 2012 from 11 to 1 pm, come out to my parent symposium and learn from other parents and experts on ways to "be there" for your child. The flier appears in this blog post for your convenience and information. Connect with me on Facebook under the group "Living the Solo Mommy Life" and on Twitter @ solomommy. Until I write you next, I'm just living the solo mommy life. Love you, Feona Sharhran Huff

Go Lady Clara! (Another Proud Mommy Moment)

I experienced yet another "Proud Mommy Moment" today. Lady Clara participated in her first cheerleader event. Her and her team acted as hostesses and said some chants for the Back-2-School Breakfast for teachers and staff at her school. She showed such spirit and enthusiasm. it is so exciting to see her living out one of her middle school dreams -- and looking so cute while doing it. #GoLadyClara

Get Your Cheerleading Fan T-Shirt Today!

Lady Clara is selling IRMS Cheerleading Fan T-Shirts as a fundraiser for her team. Please support her by purchasing one for yourself and/or for your friends and loved ones. Youth sized through Adult XL cost just $10. 2X is $12, 3X is $14 and 4X is $16. I'm taking orders starting... NOW! Money is due by Sept 4th (her first day of school!). If you're not in the Hampton Roads area and still want to support her and her team's fundraising efforts, we would certainly appreciate it. IN BOX if you want to get your T-shirt. I'm getting mine for sure!

I'm One Satisfied Shopping Solo Mommy!

I just left from New Kindling Baptist Church in Norfolk, VA, where my sis Natisha Simons Wilson and niecey-poo Keara Jashae were selling gently used items as a part of their church's flea market. I purchased two pair of heels (for me), sleeveless Coogi and army windbreakers (for me and Sir Isaac), party and formal dresses (for me and Lady Clara), a House of Deron dress (for me) and designer shirt (for Sir Isaac). Guess how much I paid for all that I bought? Just $15! Don't sleep on flea markets (especially one that's attached to a worthy cause). You might very well miss out on a blessing. Thanks for the invite family!

My Baby Earned Her Cheerleader Uniform!

This is a such a super happy moment for me as a mommy and former cheerleader (Norview Pilots). For her hard work, Lady Clara earned a cheerleader uniform. She is OFFICIAL! And, she will be cheering her school's football team onto V-I-C-T-O-R-Y beginning in September! Lady Clara couldn't wait to try her uniform on when she got home either (but who could blame her?!). I guess she must have loved the perfect fit and cool colors so much that she fell asleep in her uniform. She looked so cute, too. I am so happy for my baby. She has achieved one of her middle school goals. I'll be sure to post a photo of Lady Clara geared up at one of her football games. That, too, will be an exciting time. Until I write you next... I'm just living the solo mommy life. Love you! Feona Sharhran Huff Visionary behind "Living the Solo Mommy Life" (TM) www.livingthesolomommylife.blogspot.com P.S. If you're on Facebook, request to become a member of the group "Living the Solo Mommy Life." Follow me on Twitter @ solomommy.

You Don't Have to Apologize

"Don't apologize for the decisions that you have to make as a single mom. People will have their opinions and offer their "two cents", but at the end of the day, you have to what is best for you and your children." ~ Feona Sharhran Huff, Publisher & CEO of Solo Mommy Magazine

Help is Here for Middle School Children!

CALLING ALL PARENTS OF MIDDLE SCHOOL STUDENTS IN THE HAMPTON ROADS AREA... Join CATERS on August 11, 2012 at 12:00 p.m. for its 1st Annual Parent Seminar! The theme is "WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN EXPECTING: THE MIDDLE SCHOOL CHILD". It will take place at Russell Memorial Library, Taylor Road, Chesapeake, Virginia. TOPICS OF DISCUSSION: Characteristics of the Middle School Child Competing with Peer Groups Social Networking and Safe Internet Use Organization and Time Management Bully Prevention For more information, contact Nicole Roundtree at 4rountreegirls@gmail.com.

Help Your Children to Write Their Vision and Make It Plain

Over the weekend, I had Lady Clara and Sir Isaac to write down their goals for the academic school year (2012-2013) which will be used to create their vision boards. Two of the goals that my daughter listed were: 1)To Create My Own Style and 2)To Do More Dancing and Acting. In addition to writing down what they wanted to accomplish, I told my children that they had to develop action steps to take. Lady Clara said one of the things she needed to do in order to do more dancing and acting was to take acting and dance classes and to audition for roles. I'm happy to say that she's getting started on accomplishing her goals. Yesterday, she was supposed to be starting a web design class as part of her summer camp program. However, when I took her to the class, I was informed by the assist program director that the class was cancelled because it didn't have enough students enrolled. I was disappointed, but I inquired about a “Plan B.” It turns out that Lady Clara was able to take Fashion Design class. The funny thing is, the instructor of the class (Ms. Gail) was the one who had escorted me to find the assistant program director when I entered the third floor. I talked to Ms. Gail about Lady Clara's goals and she said, "Well, she is in the right place." What's interesting is that she also runs a dance program. I was too excited and didn't count this encounter as a coincidence. It was fate. I want to encourage you to spend time goal setting with your children. Then, take action of making your desires come true. When you write you vision and put in the work, it will become plain!

What Will You Do on Father’s Day?!

Tomorrow, the nation will observe Father’s Day – a time where sons and daughters lavish dear old dad with greeting cards, gift cards, ties, breakfast in bed, dinner and lots of hugs and kisses. So how do you, the “Solo Mommy”, handle this day when your children’s father is not around? The first thing that you don’t do is try to hide this day of celebration. Children are well aware that June 16th is Father’s Day and that it’s fast approaching. If they are in elementary school, for example, they probably worked on a project of making a card or craft. On top of that, TV ads and articles in newspapers and magazines about the celebration are in full swing. So, they can’t get around it and neither can you. The responsible thing to do is to just let the day play out and be there for your children if they ask questions. If there is a special male figure in their life, you all can collectively work on a card or take him out for breakfast, brunch or dinner in recognition of being a positive male person in their life. So remember, there’s no need to feel sad, disregard the day or complain about it. I encourage you to celebrate a dad who you know who is there for his children and keep the ones in prayer who have selected to be absent. And last, remember that Our Heavenly Father, God, loves us with an unshakable agape love and has our solo mommy families covered. Until the next time I write... I'm just living the solo mommy life. Love you! Feona Sharhran Huff

Motivational Messages from THIS Man (Be the Change You Want to See)

“Be the change you want to see. You're unique dear solo mommy! You have something that no one else possesses. So do not loose sight of things because of seemingly setbacks and disappointing times. Stay focused, embrace who you are and work towards that person you've always wanted to be. With a positive mindset, you can make the impossibilities most certainly possible". ~Mantse, CEO Rokat Concepts Inc, Accra-Ghana Richard Ohene Twum, also known as Mantse Bixy DeShyne(The Shine), was born and raised in Accra (the capital city of Ghana located in West Africa). He is a musician, graphic designer, editor, events manager and philanthropist. His goal is to touch and change lives as was as to support the less privileged and awaken shuttered dreams to make them a reality. Each week, Mantse will offer a few words of light and hope to the readers of this site. While it is important for women to lift each other up with words of encouragement, Solo Mommy Magazine thought it was equally as important to receive this from men who support a single mom's journey.

The Rain Won’t Stop Today’s Hustle

Just as I was returning from escorting Lady Clara to school this morning, the sprinkles of rain began falling down. And, immediately I began to feel down. With me not having a car as of yet, I would have to walk to my destination which is a ways away from my residence. It’s one thing to walk when it’s bright and sunny outside; it’s another when you’re getting wet along the way. After a few minutes of pondering my next move, I decided that I was going to head out the house and do what I had to do. Besides, I have a big and sturdy clear umbrella and rain boots. If I get a little rain on my wardrobe, I’ll simply dry myself off in the ladies room when I get there. The message that came out of these moments of uncertainty was that I can’t allow the rain – or anything for that matter – to stop me from tending to my tasks and accomplishing my goals. If I did, I’d be only hurting myself and impeding my progress. So, if it’s raining where you are, gear up in your rain attire and get moving. You’ve got things to do, places to go and people to see. I feel encouraged now and excited about the day. I hope you do as well. Until I write you next... I'm just living the solo mommy life. Love you! Feona Sharhran Huff Visionary behind "Living the Solo Mommy Life" (TM) www.livingthesolomommylife.blogspot.com P.S. If you're on Facebook, request to become a member of the group "Living the Solo Mommy Life." Follow me on Twitter @ solomommy.

We're in a Learning State of Mind

In less than two weeks, Lady Clara and Sir Isaac will begin taking their state tests. In preparation for this, their schools have been extremely diligent providing support and strategies so that the students will earn high scores. Today, while my son was in SOL Academy, I participated in three workshops -- one facilitated by his principle, Mrs. Reitz -- to empower me on how to further help him do well. Aimed with my pen and pad, I took lots of notes. Below are a few pointers I picked up that I'd like to pass on to you. They apply whether your child is in Virginia Public Schools, New York or wherever. Read them. Use them. And, your child is sure to do well. 1. Ask your child to show you at least five test taking strategies. If your child has options, he/she will be able to navigate around the sometimes tricky questions and go on to choose the best answer. 2. Implement a reading routine. Your child doesn't have to spend his/her entire afternoon til bedtime reading. However, if you allot a specific time reading and you adhere to that on a consistent basis, your child will know that, for example, at 5:15 pm, he/she needs to read for 20 minutes. Routines create habits and when a habit is positively formed, it reaps great results. The routine reading will position your child for success on the reading portion of the state test as he/she will be asked to read a passage, answers questions to see if what was read was remembered and explain how the answer was determined. If he/she is reading at home and practicing comprehension strategies, he/she will be go to go when test day happens. Right now, they are reading "Steve Jobs: Thinking Differently". We will be discussing the book as a family to ensure that they understand the life of the creator of the iPad, iPhone and iPod Touch, amongst other electronic devices. 3. Eat a healthy and hearty breakfast. When your child eats a nutritious meal in the morning, it gives them good energy and helps them to be focused for the day's learning. This is important everyday and will make a tremendous difference in test day. 4. Make a bedtime curfew. You want your child to get between eight to ten hours of sleep. That means, he/she would need to go to bed by 9 pm (at the latest). The more sleep your child has, the more he/she will be rested. When he/she is rested, your child is able to focus and learn. And, in the case of test taking time, he/she will be alert and able to answer the questions. With the support of their teachers Ms. Lock (Lady Clara) and Mrs. Whitten (Sir Isaac), along with myself, I am confident that my children with ace their state exams. I declare and decree that your child will do well on the tests and in life. Until I write you next... I'm just living the solo mommy life. Love you! Feona Sharhran Huff Visionary behind "Living the Solo Mommy Life" (TM) www.livingthesolomommylife.blogspot.com P.S. If you're on Facebook, request to become a member of the group "Living the Solo Mommy Life." Follow me on Twitter @ solomommy.

Hip Hip Hurray.... Lady Clara Made the Squad!

At 7:29 pm this evening, Lady Clara got the call she was waiting for. When I answered my cellphone, the caller asked for my daughter. I identified myself as her mother then inquired as to who was she. "I'm one of the cheerleading coaches," she enthusiastically replied. I immediately handed the phone over to Lady Clara and waited for her to tell me the results of the conversation. Lady Clara, who wore No. 27, was on the call less than 60 seconds but long enough to receive the wonderful news. She was selected as an alternate cheerleader for the 2012-2013 school year. Out of 40 girls, she was voted in by the panel of four judges. The cheerleading coach said that they all loved her enthusiasm and hard work, and wanted her to continue working hard. Lady Clara has a mandatory cheerleader meeting next Thursday to find out the 4-1-1 on what's expected of the team, summer cheer camp, etc. I am so happy that Lady Clara is fulfilling her dream of being a cheerleader. And, I celebrate her tenacity, courage and excitement. I told my daughter that her position was a great opportunity. I encouraged her to learn all that she could, practice and be ready when she's called upon. I know first-hand having been a varsity cheerleader for Norview High School in Norfolk, VA, that when you work hard, the coach notices and will position you for greater things. Please join me in saluting my cheerleader on a job well done! Until the next time I write, I'm just living the solo mommy life. Love you, Feona Sharhran Huff Visionary behind "Living the Solo Mommy Life" (TM) www.livingthesolomommylife.com P.S. If you're on Facebook, request to become a member of the group "Living the Solo Mommy Life". Follow me on Twitter @ solomommy.

Today is Cheerleader Tryouts for Lady Clara

As I type this right now, Lady Clara is at cheerleader tryouts. She (along with the 20+ girls ranging from fifth to eighth graders) will have to show and prove that she has what it takes to be on the cheerleader team for the 2012-2013 school year. My daughter will have to perform two jumps, a cheer, a dance and a chant. I am so excited for her. I told her to give eye contact, flash those beautiful pearly white teeth, make her moves with confidence and precision and most importantly, to have fun. I am rooting for Lady Clara. I'll update you on the results when I find out! Well, until I write you next... I'm just living the solo mommy life! Love you, Feona Sharhran Huff Visionary behind "Living the Solo Mommy Life"(c) P.S. If you're on Facebook, request to become a member of the group "Living the Solo Mommy Life". Follow me on Twitter @solomommy.

Just Call Me Ms. First VP!

Guess who was elected First Vice President of the PTA at her son's school for the 2012-2013 school year? You guessed right. It's ME! I am so honored to sit in this position in which I will head all fundraising efforts. I love being involved in my the educational journey of Lady Clara and Sir Isaac. Being a part of the PTA is one way I can be there for my children. Even if you don't sit on the executive board of your children's PTA, your presence is needed -- in the classroom, volunteering in the cafeteria and during recess, etc. I am on Cloud 9 and I'm not coming back down. This is my Oscar moment. I earned the trust and respect of the school leaders in order to carry out this new role.

Let's Go Lady Clara, Let's Go!

Dressed in a white T-shirt, sky blue shorts, athletic shoes and her hair penned back in a ponytail, Lady Clara attended the first session of cheerleader clinic this afternoon. She is trying out to for her forthcoming school’s cheerleading team. As we journeyed to the school by foot, I could feel the excitement exuding from her being as she walked ahead of me. This is a very special moment in time for my beloved daughter. She is vying for the opportunity to show the ultimate school spirit. She learned a cheer, chant and several jumps. The cheerleading coach was nice enough to give her and the other girls study sheets as tomorrow is the second clinic session and Thursday is the big day – try outs! To help Lady Clara prepare, I researched video footage to give her additional support. And, in the morning, we’re going to practice all that she has learned thus far. What Lady Clara is embarking upon brings back wonderful memories. Twenty one years ago, I tried out for the varsity cheerleading team at Norview High School. Although I was a bit nervous on my big day because I really wanted to wow Mrs. Fisher, the cheerleading coach, I had my future teammates cheering me on. When she called my name for Norview’s 1992-1993 squad, I nearly cried. I am cheering for my high-spirited daughter. Chant with me… Let’s go Lady Clara, let’s go (clasping your hands as you say this!). I’ll keep you abreast of Lady Clara’s progress. Please keep her lifted up in prayer that she receives favor from the judges. Well, until the next time I write…. I’m just living the solo mommy life. Love ya! Feona Sharhran Huff Blog Visionary for Living the Solo Mommy Life ™ P.S. If you’re on Facebook, request to become a member of my group, Living the Solo Mommy Life. Additionally, follow me on Twitter @ solomommy.

Volunteering at the Book Fair is a Win-Win Situation

I just returned from volunteering at my daughter's school bookfair. It was sponsored by Scholastic and offered some of the best and most popular books for young readers. As I walked around to assist students, I found myself looking at books for Lady Clara, Sir Isaac and even me (yes, they had three adult-centered books!). There were so many to choose from that I had a hard time saying "No" to myself. I ended up spending $127 worth of books for my party three. For Lady Clara, I bought "Taste of Home: Kid Approved Cookbook" by Reader's Digest, "One Crazy Summer" by Rita Williams-Garcia,"Drawing Horses: A Complete Kit for Beginners" by Walter T. Foster with Michael Maltseff and "Diary of a Whimpy Kid: Cabin Fever" by Jeff Kinney. For Sir Isaac, I purchased "Diary of a Whimpy Kid: The Last Straw", "Diary of a Whimpy Kid: Dog Days", Diary of a Whimpy Kid: Cabin Fever" (all by Jeff Kinney) and the two-in-one book "Ninjago: Way of the Ninja" and Masters of Spinjitzu" Tracey West. I initially got "Steven Jobs: Thinking Different" by Patricia Lankin for myself but decided to get one for my son as well as two others to give away. I also purchased "Hero Dad" by Melinda Hardin to be given away for Father's Day)as well as a bunch of book marks with sayings like "Math Boy and Number Girl" and "Boy Power". My two-hour volunteer time was well spent. I was able to support my daughter and the school with my time and my money. The children were so excited to get their books. They started reading them. As soon as I finish this blog post, I'm going to read up on Steve Jobs. That way, I can be ahead of the game when Sir Isaac and Lady Clara read the biography about the Founder of Apple Computers. I can't wait to write you again. Until then... I'm just living the solo mommy life! Feona Sharhran Huff Publisher & Editorial Director Solo Mommy Magazine Visionary behind Living the Solo Mommy Life P.S. if you're on Facebook, request to become a member of my group, Living the Solo Mommy Life. Follow me on Twitter @solomommy.

Motivational Messages from THIS Man (Message #2)

"Never quit when things are not working as planned. No one was born a loser. You have something within which no one else has. Keep on pressing, do your absolute best, communicate with your creator and He will do the rest." ~Mantse, CEO Rokat Concepts Inc, Accra-Ghana Richard Ohene Twum, also known as Mantse Bixy DeShyne(The Shine), was born and raised in Accra (the capital city of Ghana located in West Africa). He is a musician, graphic designer, editor, events manager and philanthropist. His goal is to touch and change lives as was as to support the less privileged and awaken shuttered dreams to make them a reality. Each week on this site, Mantse will offer a few words of light and hope to the readers of this site. While it is important for women to lift each other up with words of encouragement, Solo Mommy Magazine thought it was equally as important to receive this from men who support a single mom's journey.

Win a Copy of "HELP! I'm Raising My Children Alone"

This evening, while in Walgreens awaiting medicine for Lady Clara and Sir Isaac, I began looking through the Inspirational Book section across from the pharmacy. There were several books that peaked my interest but one in particular more than the others. It was "HELP! I'm Raising My Children Alone: A Practical Guide to Bringing Up Happy, Healthy Kids On Your Own". I know it's going to be an empowering read. I can tell from reviewing the chapter titles and the dedication page for which T.D. Jakes says: "I dedicate this book to all the courageous people who have chosen to raise children rather than abort them. You are already a conqueror regardless of your predicament. As you overcome new challenges you will epitomize the 'more than conquerors' that Paul spoke about. You have chosen to fight the good fight. I admire you, and I greatly respect what you are doing." Want to read the T.D. Jakes' book as well? You have the opportunity to WIN a copy by being the first person to text me the name of the keynote speaker from Solo Mommy's 5th Annual Mother's Day Brunch and "You Go, Mom!" Awards Program. Text your answer to (757) 202-3264 along with your name and contact number. Cheers, Feona Sharhran Huff Publisher & Editorial Director Solo Mommy Magazine www.livingthesolomommylife.com

Learning Shouldn’t Stop Just Because Students Are on Spring Break

Here in the Hampton Roads area of Virginia, our students are on Spring Break. They get a whole week free of quizzes, in-class assignments and homework. Yay for them, right?! While it’s true that they have worked hard for the six months that they have been in school thus far and deserve a break, learning shouldn’t cease just because they aren’t reporting to math, English, Social Studies or Science class. Their seven days of vacation – starting today – should still be filled with exploring and embracing knowledge. Does it mean that you should still get them up at 6 am to eat and get dressed then sit at the dining room table for structured learning? NO! However, it should be incorporated into the activities that they do throughout the day – made to be fun, of course.

Here are four suggestions for getting your child to learn that comes off as nothing but fun, fun, fun:

Take a Trip to the Botanic Garden
Now that the warm weather is upon us, it’s a perfect time to visit your local botanic garden to see beautiful flowers, plants and fish (if your garden has a Japanese Duck Pond like the one in Brooklyn, NY). Have your children to read the labels on the plants you see and have a discussion. Take an account of all of the colored flowers. Then, have them to write a report about their experience. This is science and writing core at its best. If you’re anything like me, you’ll videotape them and post their discoveries on YouTube for the world to learn as well. I’m always proud of what Lady Clara and Sir Isaac learn, and I want to share!

Bake a Cake or Cook Up a Yummy Meal in the Kitchen
Our children definitely enjoy eating delicious desserts and home-cooked meal. So, have them be an integral part of making them. For whatever it is they will cook, have them to read the instructions and gather the ingredients they will need. Then, let them get busy in the kitchen (with your supervision and support, of course). Later on, have them to recount their cooking experience from beginning to end and to do so in great detail. If they are taking the state exams next month like my two, this will be a great writing exercise as there is a writing section on the exam in which they are required to explain what they read. Practice is the perfect helper. Being able to read labels, follow directions and explain how you cooked a dish is a great accomplishment and will carry a child a long way in life and help to sharpen their mind in the classroom.

Visit Your Local Library or Bookstore
Lady Clara and Sir Isaac practically live in our local library, The Indian River Public Library. They participate in learning activities, social events, read books and play computer games and challenge me to chess. For them, it’s the place to be. And, equipped with our April 2012 calendar, they have plans to indulge in the events of this week (beginning with Family Movie Night tonight!). Lots of exploring and learning awaits your children at the library and bookstore. Once you enter the door, let them venture off and choose the books they want to check out or sit down and read. If they’re excited about a comic strip book, for instance, sit down with them and let them read it to you. Then, ask them to write a review about it (what it was about, why they liked it and why another student should read it). For the fun of it, can post it on your refrigerator with stars and A+ marks. They will feel great about something that they loved and you will have helped them along their learning track.

Let Them Play Teacher
Reverse the roles for this week. Let your children play as the teacher and you play as the student. To make it more fun, have them to make a sign to wear around their neck that identifies them as the teacher. Then, let them quiz you on things that they are learning in school. What this activity is doing is helping them to recall their knowledge and continue to sharpen their learning skills. Have them to grade you and post your score on the refrigerator. Perhaps you’ll get smiling faces and stars! I’m excited about Sir Isaac quizzing me on explorers such as Christopher Columbus and Christopher Newport (Hold up, let me do some reading before my son starts asking me questions!).

I hope your children enjoy their week-long vacation and incorporate learning into their relaxation schedule. Until the next time I write, I’m just living the solo mommy life.

Love you much!

Feona Sharhran Huff
Publisher & CEO
Solo Mommy Magazine

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Tonight, I Release the Word!

Tonight's the NIGHT! In honor of Women's History Month and the women of the Bible who pleased God with the phenomenal and selfless things they did, I will be releasing a profound word on Beautiful Gate Ministry's "Release The Word" entitled "Make Your Mark". The details for showtime and call-in information are attached. I hope you will tune in. For more information, visit http://www.facebook.com/​events/296082710458167#!/events/296082710458167.

Make Your Mark!

This is Women's History Month, a month in which we pay homage to past and present women are trailblazers. They've made a mark in life. They are making a mark. So, what are you doing to make your mark? When I worked at Essence in 1997, I had the opportunity to attend the first ever Million Women's March. Susan L. Taylor, then the Editor-in-Chief of the woman's magazine, purchased a photo I took to be included in a feature story about the march. It was truly a memorable event. I was a part of history then. And, I am creating history now.

Push Pass the Pain!

I woke up at 5 am this morning with Jesus on my mind. I also wok up with a tummy ache. But instead of complaining, I just started praising God and praying not for myself but for others. Then, I went to His word and began reading Proverb 31. Then Hosea chapter 1. I took my focus off of the pain -- which, honestly speaking, had me bent over because it hurt so bad. But, I was focused. I made some tea and feel a little better. I'm pushing past my pain though. I encourage you today to push pas your pain -- whatever that may be. Get centered on The Lord and things will improve.

Motivational Messages from THIS Man! (Message #1)

"Life may sometimes be a very rough road to walk; where everything seems wrong. But, don't give up. Just keep keeping on. You may think you're all alone but you're not. God is walking along with you.
~Mantse, CEO Rokat Concepts Inc, Accra-Ghana

Richard Ohene Twum, also known as Mantse Bixy DeShyne(The Shine), was born and raised in Accra (the capital city of Ghana located in West Africa). He is a musician, graphic designer, editor, events manager and philanthropist. His goal is to touch and change lives as was as to support the less privileged and awaken shuttered dreams to make them a reality.


Each week on this site, Mantse will offer a few words of light and hope to the readers of this site. While it is important for women to lift each other up with words of encouragement, Solo Mommy Magazine thought it was equally as important to receive this from men who support a single mom's journey.

Get Ready for a Gathering of Women!

I'm up bright and early this morning getting myself ready for "A Gathering of Women" -- an annual event presented by The Newsome House Museum and Cultural Center in honor of Women's History Month and phenomenal women making history NOW. I am a part of the author's forum. If you are in the Hampton Roads area of Virginia and can make it to the Downing-Gross Cultural Arts Center in Newport News between 11 am and 5 pm, I will be in the building promoting my latest editorial project, "POWERHOUSE POINTERS: Motivational Messages for Personal and Professional Empowerment". For more information, check out the attached flyer. I hope to see you there!

When You Invest in Your Child, You Receive Blessings and Favor Unbeknownst to You

This morning, I had a meeting with Lady Clara's principal. As an involved mommy, I wanted to have a face-to-face with Mrs. Fortner to introduce myself to her so that she would know me personally and not just recognize my face in passing. I even prepared her a packet of all the things that Lady Clara and I are doing individually and collectively.

To my delight, she was very familiar with my daughter, her excellent academic standing and her artistic prowess. She was very pleased with Lady Clara and elated that I came in to get to know her. She was so impressed with what I shared in regards to the programs I facilitate that wants me to come to the school to conduct self-esteem and other workshops for the middle school students. Plus, Mrs. Fortner wants to position me so that I can do this city wide and beyond. She even gave me advice on how to get into the school system as a teacher and how to approach my Master's Degree when I begin taking my classes in May.

All I wanted to do was simply let Mrs. Fortner know who I was as a parent and to partner with the school to empower our students. WOW... I am beaming with joy and thanksgiving.

A Song for the President's Girl!

I am so proud to announce that my dear friend, fellow solo mommy and jazz singer Jazzy LaRita Shelby has just launched a single called "Mr. President's Girl," in which she sings a song in honor of Michelle Obama, our nation's First Lady. Listen to the song at the following link and please support this songbird:http://soundcloud.com/eurnews/mr-presidents-girl-by-jazzy.

Treat the Next Child Like She is Yours... You Never Know if Your Daughter Could Be in This Situatioon

Just as my son's bus was turning the corner in our apartment complex, I hustled to the bus stop to get him. We then went to check the mail and began walking across the street to our building when I noticed that one of the little girls from Sir Isaac's school was standing in front of an apartment by herself. I asked Christina where was her brother as he usually was here by now. She didn't know. I didn't just want to take her with me and Sir Isaac to get Lady Clara from school (though it was just behind the complex) because Christina's brother might come when we were gone and get nervous. Instead, I told her to wait inside the building for us to get back.

When we returned, Christina was still standing where we left here -- alone. I asked if she had her brother's number, but she didn't. I was really getting concerned, too. While she was mature beyond her eight years of living, Christina was still a child. So that she wouldn't continue to be by herself, I had the kids to play with her in the complex's playground. In the meantime, I gave her a snack and a Capri Sun juice. And, when Lady Clara had to go to the bathroom, I had Christina to go as well.

I figured that since it has been close to an hour, they all might as well got started on their homework. So, I had them get set up at the dining room table and I had planned to sit on the patio and look out for Christina's brother. Just when I was about to put my chair outside, I saw a teenage boy walk into the same building as where Christina had been standing. I couldn't remember what her brother looked like, but my gut told me it was him. When he came back out of the building, I called Christina over and she identified that it was in fact her brother. I yelled from the patio (a practice I NEVER do!) and told him she was with us. I explained who I was just to put his mind at ease (FYI: Christina and Sir Isaac attend the same school) and gave him my number for him to call should he ever get stuck and can't get to her in time.

As a concerned mom and community activist, I never want to see any child out on the streets (or at a bus stop) by himself or herself. I thank God that I could be there for Christina. I pray that if there is ever a time where I'm in a bind and can't make it on time to get my children, that someone will do what I did. We must be a village for our children. It should never be, "Well, it's not my child so it's not my problem." They are ALL of our children -- whether biological or not. And, we must be there for them and for each other as a community.

If you don't have the telephone numbers of the parents in your area and your children go to school together, I implore you to exchange numbers with each other. Be in communication. Help each other out. We're in this together. At the end of the day, it's about our children.

I Have the RIght Perspective Now! Do You?!

Last night, I was watching Pastor Joel Osteen's message, "Have the Right Perspective," and it got me to thinking about how I look at the daily things I do that sometimes seem so routine. So, this morning I say, "Thank God for a sink full of dishes for it means that me and my children didn't go hungry." #IGotANewAttitude

I am the VOICE of the SOLO Mommy